Hi, it's Sharon again,

When I first started dating Paul I had a few questions about his heart. They weren't all at once, but every so often I would think about something that I didn't understand, or sometimes it was just idle curiosity. What was the most shocking thing to me however was how little information Paul could give me.

Pauls lack of information was not due to forgetfulness but merely because he had never bothered to ask the questions himself. That was the way things were, he new how to look after himself and he knew that he had had two major operations but apart from that he new very few details and most of these were a blur.

Together we have through speaking to his parents and his cardeologist pieced together what actually happened, although I feel that for Paul this information has little more meaning that when a distant relative who hasn't seen you in years expects you to remember the time you were sick on their sofa at the age of 4 (or similar, you know what I mean, and it was probably your cousin anyway!).

So although Paul has gained an interest and curiosity about his heart, it is still a bit of a mystery to him. I often think that sometimes I can recall more of the details than he can. I don't really have much of a point to this story, I guess if Paul had of continued to have invasive treatment throughout his teens and into adult hood things may have been different, I guess my point is that ignorance can be bliss.